Not a sewing related entry, so if you're looking for pretty updates, today's not your lucky day. The shirt I cut on Friday is still hanging on a dining room chair, my DH is afraid to touch it and he's been the only one home this weekend.
2 years ago on MD, at 12:01 am, my father passed away. It was quite expected, welcome even at that point. But MD is still and will always be the day I ceased being a daughter forever. My mother died over 20 years ago 2 years before I became a mother.
Last year we spent the day driving from Michigan to DC in that torrential rain/storm that encompassed the NE for 2 days. We arrived soggy and exhausted to discover our apartment leaked and was also soggy and exhausted. It was mid-July (yes, July) before they finished fixing that mess.
Yesterday morning my son, visiting, had a seizure. We're still not sure why, but we think it was a drug reaction, more by a process of what it isn't (most of which are good NOT to be), so yesterday and today was spent at the hospital. He's still there tonight.
So next year I will be the Jew at Christmas. I'll go to a movie and eat Chinese food. Keep your sappy cards and macaroni pins, your brunches and carnations. I'm just done with this holiday. Pick another day, some time in the summer and name it "We love Beth day" or something, and take me out to dinner and buy me golf stuff. Just don't tell the fates when it's going to be or make any reference to parenting. I have a friend who has forsworn a much more major holiday, Thanksgiving, so I know it can be done. It will difficult at first, but much easier than putting up with this crap every spring.
For the rest of you out there, Happy Mother's Day. I don't begrudge you your day, you earned it, you deserve it. And I hope it was wonderful, filled with family and frittatas and maybe even some sunshine.
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I care what you wrote about! I hope your son is ok. How scary that had to be and will be until you know for sure shat caused it.
ReplyDeleteI am also sorry about your dad. That must have been very difficult. No matter how much you expect a death it is never easy to say goodbye.
I always hated Father's Day, because my "father" was not such a great person. He wasn't in the picture very much and when he was it wasn't good.
I felt compassion for some kids at church today. Two sisters don't have much contact with their mom at all. They have a great dad, but that's not the same on MD.
Then we have another brother and sister who have just become reunited with their "former" drug attic mom. I sure hope she can keep herself straight.
MD is not always a happy day any more than FD or as you mention other holidays when they have bad memories.
I can sympathize. Holidays hit me hard.
ReplyDeleteI hope your son gets well quickly. Nothing worse than sick children, regardless of their age.
*hugs* I hope your son is doing better today.
ReplyDeleteIf I can eat pizza on Thanksgiving, you can do without a corsage in May. Keep your chin up, somehow things have to get better (and for pete's sake it has GOT to quit raining..) K
ReplyDeleteI hear you BeeBee. Holidays can be hard. I always had trouble with MD and FD, not least because I always had trouble finding appropriate cards. You know, the kind that aren't overly sentimental.
ReplyDeleteI got my car washed yesterday, and the attendant was quite embarrassed when he almost wished me Happy Mother's Day and realized that I might not be a mom (I'm not). No big deal to me, but he might have thought about the greeting first.
Oh I am sorry you had such a crappy weekend. And I hope your son is doing better and that whatever happened was just something like a drug reaction that can be avoided in the future. I am also hoping that there is no other lasting damage or effects.
ReplyDeleteHolidays can be hard. Best just to ignore all the bad karma. Really, three strikes and your out is a good rule to follow. So long MD.
My husband's father died, unexpectedly, on DH's 25th birthday. It took him until he was older than his dad had been at the time of his death to ever feel comfortable about his birthday.
First of all I hope your son is ok!! I was telling Hans the other day that I just wish these holidays would go away. I'm an overly sensitive person and I always worry about people who will actually end up grieving or alone on these days. I well remember some very lonely Christmas Eves when I was alone because my kids were with their dad and his girlfriend. Even though I got them on Christmas day it was still hard to deal with, and then I felt guilty for being so selfish!
ReplyDeleteYou are in my thoughts.
ReplyDeleteYeah, it's tough when bad things happen around a holiday. My mom died on New Year's Day, so now I have to welcome in the new year with that sad memory. Mother's Day is a Hallmark holiday anyway.... Hope DS is okay.
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry about all the awful things. I hope it's better already, or at least improving.
ReplyDeleteHolidays are just not always good. DH has real issues with Christmas, and we don't really celebrate. I think you can have your own personal holiday calendar with no trouble at all. A pretty good plan, actually.
Oh Beth, {{{Big hugs}}}
ReplyDeleteI've just caught up on your blog. I'm happy to hear that your son is out of the hospital, but sorry he and you had to go through all this.
I hope all is straightened out with his meds, and that you're able to find a new equalibrium. Sending you all the good vibes I can.
beebee, I am so sorry. I was just over at SG admiring your gorgeous scallop hemmed skirt and beautiful new top. You really have been through the ringer. Like so many others I have a bad holiday, too - mine is Christmas, the day my dad died in a car accident. I feel for you. {sending good vibes}
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